Whether your spouse spends too much time on their hobby, or you want to find a common interest to enjoy together, here are some tips to put into practice.
Share Your Hobby with Your Spouse
If you have a hobby that can include your spouse, include them. This could mean attaching a sissy bar to your motorcycle so they can go for rides with you, building them a deck of character cards for gaming, or letting them steer a boat while you fish. There are plenty of ways to spend time together as you both enjoy a hobby that you already have established.
Keep in mind that sharing in a hobby doesn’t mean your spouse has to participate or become an expert at it, simply being open to experiencing your recreational activities with you and caring about what you care about is enough. So don’t put pressure on them to be a professional water skier or scuba diver like you, but instead let them sunbathe on the boat, or learn about fish.
Being considerate is a big rule when it comes to time spent on a hobby. It is human nature to get stressed out and need some time to detox from the day. So be considerate and realize that maybe your spouse could use some video game time before you ask them to help you with the dishes, or let them watch a movie while you put the kids to bed. Giving the gift of downtime to each other can be a powerful gesture of love.
Likewise, practice consideration when you want to engage in your own interests. Consider asking your spouse if they need your help or time before you head out to the golf course or schedule lunch with a friend.
Think outside the Box
If you seem to be at an impasse and neither one of you would like to participate in each other’s hobbies then it’s time to think outside the box and find a common interest you both can share. There are many ways to find this, you could sit down and have a fun discovery conversation about what your interests are, you could try taking classes or lessons together, or you could take a cue from other couples and try a hobby that a couple you know enjoys together like dancing, biking, or bird watching.
No matter if you develop an entirely new hobby together, like sushi making, or include your spouse in your existing hobby, like adding a sissy bar to your bike, you will gain the benefits of quality leisure time spent with your spouse, and that is a great way to make life a little bit sweeter.